Tuesday, September 7, 2010

How do you answer questions that your children ask you?

The answer should be...with honesty and according to what God's Word teaches.  But most often, we brush off their questions because the question (and their probing little eyes) make us uncomfortable.  "Don't worry about that.  That isn't important."
If it isn't important...why are they asking?  They want to know!  These are the years when they are learning and growing.  What they learn now...is making them who they are going to be years from now.  If we aren't using the Bible as our guidebook...our children are not going to know what God expects.  If they aren't hiding God's Word in their heart...they won't recall His Words in times of temptation and trial.
Psalm 119:9-11
"Wherewithal shall a young man cleanse his way?  by taking heed thereto according to thy word.  With my whole heart have I sought thee:  O let me now wander from they commandments.  Thy word have I hid in mine heart, that I might not sin against thee."
So...we have answered our children's tough questions lately...according to God's Words.  We are no longer in the "NO, NO!" stage of parenting.  We are in the thick of, "Train up a child in the way he should go:  and when he is old, he will not depart from it."  Proverbs 22:6  We are seeing how each of our children learn.  We see their weaknesses and strengths.  We see their confusion as they see and hear things from people they are around.  "Why can't we do this?  Why do they do that?  How come we have to do this?  How come they don't do that?"  They are asking questions.  They want answers, and "Because we said so!" isn't the right answer!
We aren't lying to them and we aren't sugar-coating things.  Right is right.  Wrong is wrong.  We are directing them to God's Word...because that is our measuring stick.  I need to really focus on bringing them to God's Word every single time.  It is not my opinion...it is God's expectation.  I get timid about speaking up and standing up on certain issues...it is not easy to be alone!  Yet, every Wednesday night this summer, we have been teaching the children the song,
 "Do right till the stars fall.  Do right till the last call.  Do right when there's no one else to stand by you.  Do right when your'e all alone.  Do right though it's never known.  Do right since you love the Lord.  Do right.  Do right!"
We teach and expect our children to do what the adults aren't doing!  What a sad state we are in spiritually!   We just heard the phrase again the other day, "More is caught than taught."  Yes, there is truth to that.  BUT...that doesn't mean you don't teach anything!  If our parents had had that mentality, where would we be today?!  What is wrong with us that we are taking such a lazy approach with our children?!  We have lost our focus!  We have bought into the world's ideas.  Chaos reigns.  Minds are wasted.   And we are losing our children because we have no standards and no backbone to have any standards.
There is a right way to answer your children's questions about life...God's way or man's way.  How we answer them now...will determine the choices they make...which will affect how they go!

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